A Look At Love
My name is Joshua Kiskamp, and I am doing the blog for this week. For those of you who don’t know me I will give a quick introduction. Holy Redeemer Lutheran Church is my home church, my parents moved to California last summer, but I have a brother, Kirby Hiller, who lives in Cedar Rapids still. I am a Sophomore at Central College, where I am double majoring in Actuarial Science and Accounting. I also run Track and am involved in a few clubs. I have a beautiful girlfriend, Caitlyn Landuyt, whose home church is Trinity Lutheran in Walford.
The Scripture that I want to reflect on is 1 Corinthians 13 1-7, which I have at the end of the message. This has quickly become one of my favorite verses and I found it from a song (“Proof Of Your Love” by King and Country).
I have been thinking a lot about Love lately. What is truly love? What is unconditional love? All thoughts that bounce around my head.
I have heard and have been the person to say “I love you!” to the person that does a favor for me. I believe now that this isn’t truly love, it is a form of momentary love, I guess you could say. This isn’t what God meant love to be though.
I also used to believe when people would say, “Nobody loves me” and feel sympathy. Nobody can be in this world without the unconditional love that God made this world through. I have been seeing this more and more, and it has opened my eyes.
Caitlyn has been a testament of changing my view of love for the past year. I used to be a terrible person in relationships, it’s something I did not like about myself. When we started dating I promised change, and I did change. We have had a pure relationship. Pure in the sense that we rarely fight, and if we do it is minor enough to fix right there. Pure in the sense that we know we are faithful to each other and it will stay that way. Pure in the sense that I love her and that cannot be changed. It is unconditional, even if we were to split up I would still love her. The Unconditional Love is the love God gives to this world.
Any parent understands what I am saying here. The unconditional love of a parent is as pure as the love God has for us. As children, especially the children of today (me included), are often unappreciative and ungrateful. You say you hate your parents because they ground you, don’t let you hang out with friends one night, give you chores, and the list goes on. I understand now as an adult that supervision is needed and I am extremely grateful to my parents for setting a limit on me as a child. I also see now how much it must have killed my parents anytime I said I hated them. Hate is as powerful as love, but in the opposite direction. I have said I hated, but as I think now, I have truly hated maybe 1% of the time, most of it is nothing in reality.
Kirby and his girlfriend Kenzie are currently expecting a child. This has changed both of their views of love. My brother talked to me and he said he understands now the love that our parents had for us. Even through everything we did, they still loved us. He sees how it is possible now, because he has seen his child on a sonogram. Even just seeing that image on a screen has changed him. He couldn’t believe he could love as much and as unconditionally as he now does, even though he hasn’t even held his child.
My parents have described love best to me from their view, the same view as God has. They may not always like me, but they will always love me.
God holds all of these views. The love that makes you want to change. The love that even if you abandon your relationship with God, He will still love you. The unconditional love of a parent. The love of someone who you haven’t even truly met face to face, but you know they are there. God loves all of us. I feel the same love God has for my friends and my family, it is unconditional. It is never-ending. It is pure love.
Pray for those you love!
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don't love, I'm nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.
If I speak God's Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, "Jump," and it jumps, but I don't love, I'm nothing.
If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.